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The Unwritten Rules Holding You Back

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Maybe you're aware of some of them or perhaps this is the first time you've really taken some time to consider them but let me ask you straight up....


Do you know what unwritten rules are ruining your happiness?


So much of our life is lived on autopilot; we are controlled by the rules and beliefs imbedded deep within our minds and without proper awareness - and intentional action - they can have all sorts of impacts.


If you've been noticing behaviours within yourself that aren't in alignment with the life you desire to live let's examine whats happening. Here are a few common unwritten rules that might be buried within.

Maybe you're holding the belief...


✨ That you need to have all your ducks in a row before you can start that business.

✨ Or that you can’t raise your prices because you’re still “new.”

✨ Or that your happiness hinges on one specific outcome finally falling into place.


BTW I'd love to hear what yours is (leave a comment and share with me).


And you're not alone, and you're not out of options either - this is exactly what I help my clients with all the time!


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Clients who broke through this block

Last week, I worked with clients who were stuck, not because reality was stopping them, but because the narratives they were telling themselves were.


Stories of how things 'should' be. Rules they’d created about what they needed to do first before they could feel accomplished, fulfilled or even happy.


Here’s how those stories played out for them and what changed once we dug deeper:


The Artist who couldn’t commit yet...


One client dreamed of exploring more expressive and personal styles in their art but had a list of must-haves a mile long: “I need to grow my business and produce art like this...not just follow my fancy! And...”

When we peeled back the layers, it wasn’t this timeline or the to-dos that was holding them back...it was a fear of 'messing up' or not being good enough right out of the gate.

Once they gave themselves permission to create imperfectly, the floodgates opened, and they found inspiration to begin (while still sticking to their plans and goals - turns out it wasn't one or the other).

The Entrepreneur pricing 'problem'...


Another client struggled with their pricing. Classic conundrum, right?


They were charging far below the value of their work because they believed, “I can’t ask for more yet. I need more experience first. Especially compared to others.”


The story seemed practical on the surface but was deeply rooted in a fear of rejection and scarcity. Together, we reframed their pricing as a reflection of their true wants and needs - not their doubts.

The result? They not only adjusted their rates but felt less attached to it meaning anything about THEM.

The happiness hoarder...


One client was convinced her happiness depended on an upcoming financial milestone.

“Once that happens,” she said, “I’ll finally feel secure and be able to start enjoying my life.” But as we explored further, it became clear she’d placed all her emotional eggs in one basket, leaving herself stuck in a cycle of waiting for happiness rather than creating it now.


By focusing on small, intentional steps that brought her joy and clarity in the present, she found a way to stay in a better feeling - before, during and after the external goal.

Do you see yourself in any of these stories?

It's logical but also kinda loco because...these unwritten rules don’t actually exist.


They’re tales your mind spins, often rooted in fear, perfectionism or outdated beliefs. And the longer we live by them, the more we block ourselves from what we truly want.

This week, we’re shining a light on those stories. Grab your pen and ponder the following...


✨ What unwritten rules have you been following without question?

✨ What narratives might be holding you back from moving forward, raising your standards or claiming your joy?

✨ And what would happen if you just…let them go?


Here’s your final reminder if you need it...the stories you choose to tell yourself today will shape your tomorrow.

Don't like what you see?

Let’s rewrite them.


I’d love to hear: what’s one 'rule' you’re ready to challenge this week?

Hit reply and share with me.


And if you’re feeling stuck and want clarity on your blocks, let’s explore this deeper together. I’m here to help you uncover the freedom you’re craving.


Want more?

✨ My next online Self Care Art Classes is on Wednesday 26th Feb 6-7:30pm AEST (Brisbane time).

​Book your seat with the link above or reply to this email asap.​

✨ The next round of The Life Reset Program starts February 3rd.


If 2025 is the year you’re ready to love and fully LIVE in every area of your life - this is your moment. I can’t wait to see who steps forward to claim their most abundant, ambitious and authentic year yet!Learn more and sign up today for The Life Reset Program (or you can email me at contact@nikkiwouters,com)


Your future self is waiting and she’s absolutely crushing it ;)


Let’s make 2025 the year you own your power, unlock your potential and thrive like never before.


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Nikki Wouters: Coach & Creator

Nikki

Spiritual Life Coach & Artist




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